Reading is a key component of learning. I do my best to read a book each week. And I'm always looking for new titles! To share your own book suggestions, use #ABookAWeek on Twitter or Instagram and tag me @NicolasCole77. If I choose your book, I'll tag you in the blog post!
This week I read Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.
I'm just going to come right out and say it: This was one of the most transformational books I have ever read. There are a lot of good books in the world, but very few of them leave such an impression on you that the moment you bunny-ear a page for the day and step back out into the world, you immediately see what you were just reading about in action.
That's exactly what this book did for me.
Don't let the title confuse you: "A spiritual guide for mastering the challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire." This isn't one of those hokey romance books that preaches "openness" over and over again. One thing that David Deida does very well is he paints clear pictures of interactions between man and woman and allows you to see the lessons for yourself.
To preface: This book is primarily about masculine energy, feminine energy, and learning how to understand the way they dance with each other. For example: Ever wonder why the insanely attractive women seem to be as "attractive" as they are "insane?" Way Of The Superior Man says that it's not insanity, it's merely female energy at its finest—existing from a place beyond logic (true!) but from the most beautiful place of feeling (something men tend to lack). It explains how, as a male with masculine energy, one might struggle with the seemingly illogical actions from a very feminine woman ("insane") but at the same time, that outpouring of FEELING is what is so attractive to the male who lives in his head all day. And it's the process of learning where and how that woman is expressing herself that allows the man to come from a place of loving understanding, instead of frustration or impatience.
It's a fascinating read to say the least—and like I said, after every chapter I finished, I felt like I saw the world in a slightly different way. It's one of the few books I've read that taught me an emotion. I could actually feel what the author wanted me to feel, and I understood how to begin implementing it into my life.
One of my mentors, Aaron Webber, recently talked about this in one of his Quora posts—this idea of reading books that imprint a certain tone on your life. He talks about how he has his own list of books that are focused around the "tones" of the person he strives to be, and he reads these books every year to keep their lessons top of mind. Way Of The Superior Man will be one of those books for me. I see the value in re-reading it every few months to remember, as a man with extremely competitive, ambitious, masculine energy, how important it is to tap into the feminine and live life from a place of feeling.
To all males, I highly suggest picking up this book. And to all females, if you've ever wanted to feel understood, pick this book up. David speaks to the heart.
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